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Setting Boundaries and Drawing lines


Do you have a hard time setting boundaries with your Kids, or anyone else in your life when it comes to whining?

Here's a little scene from a pre-school classroom to help you think about it.

"Excuse me. Miss Sophia, Can you please help me buckle my sandal when you’re done helping Trevor?”

How does Miss Sophia do it? How does she get the Kids in her classroom to speak to her in such a well-mannered and respectful way?

I know Miss Sophia's secret and it's not as hard as you might think. I know because I've been an early childhood educator for around 40 years and believe me, I know that her secret is something you don't want to live without for one more day.

Imagine ten 3-year-olds all whining for something at the same time. Yes I said ten.

That’s the legal number of 3-year-olds for 1 teacher according to Wisconsin State Licensing Rules. It goes up to thirteen to one for 4-year-olds. I don't think it's a good ratio for teaching social nuances but sometimes that's the way it is.

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So how do we do it? How do teachers get kids to speak to them with respect? We confront words with words. You, too, can use language to tame the whiniest whine monster and do it quickly. I mean like 1-2 days tops. Here are the words that work.

Instead of saying this.........