Updated: May 5, 2020
I know three little words that can make your Kids smarter, more confident and more focussed. And that’s not even the best part!
These three little words can also make your life as a parent, teacher or caregiver easier and more fulfilling. And using them consistently can give you more time for you during the day.
A lot of people don’t know how to use these words effectively and they really don’t know what they’re missing in their relationships with their Kids.
Wanna know what they are? I bet you do! You're the ones who really care about the children you take care of. That's why you're here, right? OK Then this one is for you even though I know you already know this. My goal here is to remind you to use them or to use them more frequently if you already do. Ready? The three little words are……..
You did it!
Yep, that’s it. That’s all you have to say. Now, I’ll tell you in a nutshell how to use these 3 little words to help your Kids the most because I know that’s what you want for them!
Notice them when they struggle. Then wait. Waiting is the hard part because we want to rush in and fix everything for them.
Get busy. This is the tricky part. We naturally want to help and that’s good. The trouble is we often help too much. When they cry or ask for help, try saying, “Sure. I’ll help you as soon as I’m done taking out the trash. (or whatever fits)” This gives you both some time to figure out what to do. If they whine and keep asking, draw the line. See my post on whining for help with that one. For infants, just watch and wait while they struggle with minor skills such as grabbing their toes, rolling over or sitting up.
When they get through their frustration and get it done celebrate their accomplishment with them by saying…….
You did it! You rolled over!
You did it! You got your shoe on all by yourself!
You did it! You caught the ball!
You did it! You poured your milk!
You did it! You crossed the street safely! Passed your algebra test! Made a friend!
If they try something and you find a way to let them struggle for a good while and they really do need some help, you can support their learning the best way possible by giving them the least amount of help they need to succeed.